Everyone needs a friend. Someone to confide in and trust with everything you have. Some friendships can last from a couple of hours to many years. Once you find that one specific friend that you feel confident enough to give the title of “Best”…everything changes.
I had a best friend but I had to end our relationship. It sucks because we have been friends for a little over twenty years. This friend has been in my life for so long its like we’re family. Now, I’m still in my twenties. I’m still young and discovering life. Maybe I’ll find another friend but I’ve been burned so badly by them that I don’t want any close friends. I can’t trust anyone right now. I’m so guarded.
Cutting them off feels like I’ve lost a part of myself. We did everything together, from talking on the phone next to each other to watching the same TV shows from miles apart. It just became our thing. They made the moving to the states easier. They were my connection with home and now its been severed.
Why did it end?
Well basically we shared a bill and they failed to provide their part. I ended up putting up everything for the bill and putting myself in the worst financial situation ever. At this point, they could care less. They are more upset at me because I came down on them hard. It’s something I rarely do but this time their actions doesn’t just affect me but it affected my son as well. I don’t think they can see that because they are too wrapped up in the fact that I terminated their part of the contract to prevent further mishaps.
It’s been a month and a half since the incident and no contact has been made in the terms of repayment. They have contacted me and basically said that everything is my fault. I always make everything about me and I don’t care about them. I think the worst of them but I don’t. If I do try make contact, it’s like I’m attacking them. There has been no attempt to pay off their debt and when it is brought up then they go ghost.
I’m at a loss for words right now because like I said it doesn’t bother me if it hurts me. It hurts my son, their godchild. I can’t begin the explain the range of emotions that I feel right now. I was never living paycheck to paycheck but now I am. I was never living above my means and now I am. It hurts like hell and I don’t think anyone can understand how I feel.
My situation is basically that I had to put everything into this one bill which meant that I had little left to put into my other bills. This means that my other bills had to suffer. Either I had to push back payments which is an issue because it runs into the other payment schedule of other bills or I could not pay at all. Then the funds that I did have I could not use because I have a child. If anything happens to him I need to have some sort of change just for that situation.
On top of that I forgot to take my bills off of auto payment and they withdrew from the bank and now I’m looking at overdraft fees for every bill they paid. The longer my account stays empty the more fees they tack on. What sucks is the minute the direct deposit drops into my bank account that it’s gone. I’ve lost at least six hundred to the bank and its steady climbing. I’m looking at losing my insurance because I can’t pay my monthly bill.
The sacrifices I have to to make now just to stay afloat. The things I had to withdraw my child from because his leisure activities are no longer within my budget. Even doing that barely keeps me afloat, barely keeps food on the table. My credit is gone. I can kiss buying that car and house good bye. This situation has left me in a worse situation than being with my ex.
I was suppose to get married in December. All wedding plans have came to an abrupt stop. Makes no sense to plan for a wedding when you can’t buy anything for it period. I’m thinking about calling the whole thing off and just pushing it back again.
School is in nine days and I’m wondering how I will get him ready for school and take him to doctor appointments. Yes, my spouse is helping me but he needs to survive as well seeing as we live thousands of miles apart currently. He’s sacrificed and is willing to sacrifice not having food so that I won’t sink to bad into financial distress.
My job sucks and any overtime that I make they force you to cut it. If I work five minutes over I have to cut it. However, the corporate rules state that once you work you must get paid for your time that you put in but they don’t abide by that. I have been skating by on that rule for a while until last night when I was cornered by three managers about it.
My job gave me a week of six hour shifts with no lunch and they know its illegal to do so. One night I ended up clocking out two minutes late because the punch clock was not working and they basically used that against me. It was either I sign a paper accepting full responsibility for the situation or be terminated.
In that moment, I wanted to quit but couldn’t because I’m broke. I might as well be homeless. I have to survive for my son. Quitting means I can still save face and have some dignity left. I can’t get fired because it will look terrible on my resume. I’ve never been fired before and they could spin it as I’m stealing time. If I’m fired it means that I’m also blacklisted from working at every one of their stores and sister stores. My final option was to sign the paper accepting full responsibility. I was told that I can’t go over my time again or there will be penalties.
You know what sucks is that an hour and a half later when it was time for me to leave, I couldn’t. I needed management to lock up the store and they didn’t come until thirty minutes pass. Now, I’ve signed away my rights earlier and I have to cut the time to be compliant or they could use this against me and fire me anyway. I’m considering leaving and just flipping burgers in McDonald’s.
Honestly, there is only so much one person can take and I think I’ve reached my limit. I don’t have it in me to fight anymore. I barely want to wake up as it is and put up with what I have to deal with. All of this because of a friend…not any friend but a friend who I gave the title as “best”.