Cheating is cheating regardless of how you spin it.
Simply put, physical cheating is the act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or significant other. It is one of the most common forms of cheating. Although physical cheating is common among men and women, it seems to affect men and women in different ways. Men view physical cheating as emasculating and a form of physical rejection. Women, on the other hand, may be more likely to see beyond the physical indiscretion if they perceive that emotions were not involved.
Emotional cheating may include physical intimacy but not necessarily so. Emotional cheating may begin as an innocent friendship. Eventually, an emotional cheater finds himself intimately confiding in the person, sharing thoughts, dreams and an emotional closeness that would normally be reserved for his mate. In some ways, emotional cheating is more crippling to a relationship than physical cheating. With physical cheating, the cheater may still feel emotionally connected to his partner and may only be seeking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. With emotional cheating, however, the cheater’s heart may no longer be in the relationship.
This topic hits home because I went through both forms of cheating. Anyone can get over someone physically cheating on them. This is my opinion. What a person struggles to get over is when someone emotionally cheats on them. With emotional cheating, you’ve already lost your spouse to someone else. The bond that you shared is no longer there.
This was ultimately the downfall of my five year relationship. I could have gotten over him cheating on me physically. If it was just that. I couldn’t get over him emotionally cheating on me. His emotional connection to this female is what led to him physically cheating. Nothing felt sacred anymore. Not only did he betray my trust but he told this female everything about me and our relationship. I couldn’t trust or talk to him.
I’m kind of heated on this topic mainly because of a group conversation I had where someone stated that they are talking to a married person. When I pointed out that its considered adultery and cheating they said it is not cheating because they haven’t been physical.
Late night conversations, rides, text messages, and everything else they listed are all forms of emotional cheating. There is no where or how to spin it. You’ve already crossed a line that cannot be uncrossed. They stated that they can end it at anytime. If it’s merely nothing then there should be no reason to end anything. Regardless of what, in my opinion, it’s cheating.
You can be friends with anyone as long as you don’t cross the line. The minute you start sneaking and hiding things from your significant other in regards to you talking to another person I consider it cheating. If you are not planning some sort of surprise that requires secrecy then it is not needed. Once again, this is merely my opinion. What’s yours?
© Hikari Aie