I know something now that I didn’t then. There is no template for how to handle an affair or a break up. There is no perfect script. Real life isn’t a movie, and setting his clothes on fire will probably get you arrested. Instead, you do the best you can to take care of yourself, to take care of your children, and to keep getting up every morning until the day it doesn’t hurt quite as badly as before.
In time, you discover if your relationship/marriage is broken or just bent, taking on a new shape, a new normal. And, if you are really lucky, someday you figure out how to forgive and learn how to live with the knowledge that someone can both love you deeply and cheat on you.
Love is messy. Relationships and marriage is messy. Life goes on.
It’s how you deal with it that counts…